I'm Not Jealous!

Hi Caroline

I’m 18 and have just started working at great company where everything is great, the job, the people, and the atmosphere, everything really great…

Except for this one girl in the office! She always has the best clothes, the best car, the best boyfriend, the best desk etc.

Everybody likes her and she’s always the centre of attention.

I sometimes feel like I really hate her, I don’t know why I feel like this, I’m beginning to resent her. She’s friendly to me and I can’t understand why she affecting me like this,

I’d really like to be friends with her but I don’t know why I can’t.

My life is OK my flat is OK my boyfriend is OK, my clothes are OK, but she seems to have everything just perfect and I hate it.

I don’t think I’m jealous but I really can’t stand being in the same room as her and I want to be friends with her but it’s so hard. I find myself clamming up and not saying anything at all to her and just watching her laugh with everyone else.

I just pretend she’s funny because she’s not really, but why can’t I just be friends with her?

Help I need to know how to stop feeling like this towards her.

Emerald

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Oh Emerald

This girl seems to have it all, doesn't she, and well, maybe she does!

You have picked up on everything about her that isn't you. You have started comparing; Your life with hers, Your things with hers, Yourself with her, and that's not very good at all. It will ruin your self-esteem and confidence.

Try not to notice what she has, or looks like. Try listening to her and see why she's so great and likeable! If you do that, you will be able to see her for who she really is and like her too. Try making a point of talking to her - Small talk about the weather or something about work, but not about someone at work.

If you try and have something in common with her, you will find it easier to make conversation. Ask her for her opinion on something, and she’ll be your ‘best friend’, forever! It will break the cycle of deliberately not talking to her, because that's making you even worse.

You have to tackle these issues head on.

Remember; We all have different lives to others, and have things, they do, or don't have. Be happy with your life. Don’t be concerned with what she has or has not, even if she is the boss's daughter?

And you are definitely not jealous, definitely not,... definitely.... Jealous!

Good Luck

Caroline
Agony Angel