Mark & Stacy

Hi Caroline

I am 16 year old and still at school. I met my boyfriend there and we are so in love.

I want to have sex with him but I am a virgin and if my parents found out they would stop me from seeing Mark.

I know we are young but he is my world and we love each other.

I don’t know how to have sex, I’ve never done it before, all we have done is kissed, coudled and touched each other but that’s where it ends.

I want to try it but I’m scared, where do we start?

Thanks

Stacy

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Hi Stacy

Your parents know you are going out together and I'm pretty sure that they will think that you may be having some kind of physical relationship with each other. They were young once you know and have been there, if you know what I mean!

The legal age for have sex in the UK is 16 although you shouldn't jump into bed with someone just because you can. I am a believer in waiting for the right person and the right moment.

This could well be your right person, all you have to wait for is the right moment. You are both ready and you should take it very carefully, take precautions and either wear a condom go on the pill or do both just to be safe! (never trust it to the man to pull out at the moment of ejeculation becase he won't and before you know it you'll be changing nappies!)

You have to be somewhere where you can relax and take your time (preferably a bed) Kiss and cuddle as you have been doing and when you are both ready get him to wear a condom and make sure it is on correctly, over the full length of his penis (Hopefully, your school will have let you practice on bananas in your sex education lessons although if his penis looks yellow and comes in a bunch, I'd start to worry!). Then either you or your boyfriend has to separate your lips and guide his penis inside you. (it won't just magically go in, you have to give it a helping hand) It could be very tight as your hymen may not be broken and may need forcing. You should keep talking to each another and make sure you are both comfortable. Don't rush things and don't worry if you don't get it right the first time. Rome wasn't built in a day! And you have all the time in the world.

If you're mature about this side of your relationship and take precautions then you should have a full loving and caring sex life.

Making love is a very special thing between two people and it should only be done for love to that person, so take care and relax and enjoy.

This is general advice for anyone having sex: Should anything go wrong and you think the slippery sucker may have got you pregnant then you have to go to your Doctor of the Family Planning Clinic straight away for advice and medial attention. There is nothing worse than brining a baby in to this world before you are ready to become parents.

Caroline
Agony Angel