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Never Look Back!

Hi Caroline

When I was 7, my fathers’ best friend abused me.

He used to call round every Sunday to have a chat with my Father and they would sit and drink Whiskey ’til the early hours of the morning. His friend would nip to the toilet and stop by my room; he used to abuse me sexually with his hands under the sheets.

I was so scared that I couldn’t scream or speak out.

I’m now in my late 30’s and I still carry this secret with me. After all these years I have never stopped thinking about what happened. My Fathers friend is now deceased but my father is still alive.

I am unable to concentrate on my own family. I fear for my daughter when any man is around. I feel that I need to confront my Father and tell him what happened all those years ago. Am I right in doing this or should I just suffer in silence?

Will I ever trust men again?

It's a horrible thing to have been through and I think talking about it again will help you to heal. Although I don't think telling your father will help things, he probably had no idea what his friend was doing to you and if he found out now it would cause him great pain to think he has failed as a father. If you could have told your Father at the time, then it would have given him the opportunity to kick the living shit out of his friend, but your fear didn't allow you to do this.

I think you should talk to either a Councillor or a Therapist that deals with these issues. They may be able to help you relax and come to terms with it. Not all men are bastards, it's just a few that spoil it for the rest!

Time is a great healer and sometimes we forget things and sometimes we learn and help others because of what we have been through. Maybe you should consider counselling others who may have experienced the same things as you have and you could offer support and courage to help them heal and get over it. Always make something positive happen out of a terrible experience only then can you truly get better.

Caroline
Agony Angel

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	Never Look Back! Hi Caroline When I was 7, my fathers’ best friend abused me. He used to call round every Sunday to have a chat with my Father and they would sit and drink Whiskey ’til the early hours of the morning. His friend would nip to the toilet and stop by my room; he used to abuse me sexually with his hands under the sheets. I was so scared that I couldn’t scream or speak out. I’m now in my late 30’s and I still carry this secret with me. After all these years I have never stopped thinking about what happened. My Fathers friend is now deceased but my father is still alive. I am unable to concentrate on my own family. I fear for my daughter when any man is around. I feel that I need to confront my Father and tell him what happened all those years ago. Am I right in doing this or should I just suffer in silence? Will I ever trust men again? Hi It's a horrible thing to have been through and I think talking about it again will help you to heal. Although I don't think telling your father will help things, he probably had no idea what his friend was doing to you and if he found out now it would cause him great pain to think he has failed as a father. If you could have told your Father at the time, then it would have given him the opportunity to kick the living shit out of his friend, but your fear didn't allow you to do this. I think you should talk to either a Councillor or a Therapist that deals with these issues. They may be able to help you relax and come to terms with it. Not all men are bastards, it's just a few that spoil it for the rest! Time is a great healer and sometimes we forget things and sometimes we learn and help others because of what we have been through. Maybe you should consider counselling others who may have experienced the same things as you have and you could offer support and courage to help them heal and get over it. Always make something positive happen out of a terrible experience only then can you truly get better. Caroline Agony Angel This letter is taken from Caroline's world changing DVD where she shares her life coaching skills to help motivate you into achieving your goals and improve your life, along with a selection of letters that she receives each day as an agony aunt.... Buy the DVD This is your passport to survial in love, life and relationships.

						Sometimes by helping others you can help yourself!